On the 1st June 2020 at 14:14, Beatrix Lucy Gwynn entered the world and was delivered by her mummy, Jo.
Jo and Paul arrived at their accommodation on Thursday 21st May in preparation for the arrival of their daughter. Even though she wasn’t due until the 27th May, we were hopeful she wouldn’t keep us waiting.
On the 31st May, I didn’t sleep very well as I felt like something might be happening. I woke up on the 1st June very disappointed that everything had disappeared. As a team, we had decided to use a private midwife so we could all be together at home. I called my midwife Linda in the morning and she came over at 10am. She offered me a sweep which I decided to take as I felt sure something was happening. She left at 10.30am and Alex and I decided to go for a walk around our lane. I kept having tightenings and had to stop a few times. We returned home and by 11.30am, I was having contractions every 5 minutes. They weren’t too painful and I was able to breathe through them. By 12.30pm they were coming every 3 minutes and I now had the TENS machine on.
We called our midwife back and she arrived at 12:40pm, very handy that she lives so close to us! She said I was 5cm dilated but I felt sure that things were going to happen quickly. At 1pm the TENS machine was being used on a higher setting but I was still coping ok. At 1.20pm I got into the pool and felt that I needed to push. Linda and Alex agreed we needed to call Jo and Paul, they arrived at 1:40pm. By now the contractions were really intense and poor Alex’s hands were being squished!
At 2pm the feeling of needing to push took over me. With only a few pushes and lots of panting, Linda told me that Beatrix’s head was out. Jo was in the pool behind me with Paul taking (tasteful!) pictures and Alex being my amazing birth partner. With my next contraction, Linda told Jo to get ready to catch her daughter and, as I pushed, Jo brought Beatrix to the surface for her first cuddle.
We stayed in the water crying and cuddling Beatrix who barely cried… she just looked surprised to be here! The whole experience was exactly what we wanted – we were all together, it was calm and peaceful and by far one of the best days of my life.
Surrogate partners are not always mentioned or given the recognition they deserve. Alex was right there every step of the way, supporting me and assuring me I could do this. He supported me when things didn’t go to plan, he supported me when we changed direction from GS to TS, he supported me through the awful sickness I had for 18 weeks, being kept awake when I had awful indigestion and taking care of our three children when I couldn’t. He is an absolute superstar!
When we joined SUK in 2018, we knew we wanted to help an IP/IPs have a family but we never realised the amazing friendship we would form and how close we would become as a team. I am so proud of all of us, we never gave up and we stayed strong.
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